Got incredibly clucky today holding a gorgeous baby girl - she was only 4 months old and she fell asleep on my chest whilst her mum was getting ready. There is something very satisfying about the gentle breathing of a baby drifting off to sleep, their soft skin and gentle sighs - all this coming from the woman who hadn't wanted children.
Of course two energetic sons later I am as maternal as they get, even this new mother today remarked that I was a natural and that she can never get her daughter off to sleep that quickly. She was telling me about how she thinks she's doing it wrong, which I assured her, that we all had those thoughts as new mums but that she was doing a great job and not to stress too much about it.
Its funny how we automatically doubt ourselves, but then society and media has sold us this idea that we have to be it all that we can be mum, wife and career woman, but can we have it all really - you can not give 100% to each of these roles at the same time, something has to give! And then of course many of us fail to schedule time in our lives for ourselves, I, like many woman went through a period where we lost our identities, we became wife and mother and it can be overwhelming.
I am going to embark on a little experiment, I read an excerpt from a book, which was actually about search engine optimisation but I am going to apply the rules to my marriage! It sounds crazy and possibly is but I am going to dedicate the minimum of an hour a day where its not about bills, work, children, dishes, television its just about my husband and I - and I will also do the same for me an hour a day that is just for me now naturally the kids require more of me than an hour and lets face it that's not something I grudge giving.
The idea being that instead of thinking too much about finding the time and energy to be it all, we dedicate a small amount of time each day to the areas of our lifes that we need to nurture.
Have a good weekend
Claire
Saturday, 13 March 2010
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